There are many different reasons we can become attracted to people. We may admire a personality trait that they possess, or find ourselves sexually attracted to them. Perhaps our personalities are very compatible, or we like the way that they make us laugh. Or maybe they are attractive because they are "dangerous" or "bad girls/boys."

Whatever the reason, it is natural to be initially attracted to others. This doesn't end just because we are in love and committed to The ONE. However, simple, instinctive attraction must be where it ends in your heart and mind if you want a relationship with your girlfriend that will last for a lifetime. Infatuation may seem harmless now, but it will lead you down the road to infidelity.

How do you "reconcile your feelings?" I think that you've already started -- by realizing them for what they are: feelings. You don't have to act on them. You don't have to encourage them. Nip them in the bud as soon as they pop up you can realize -- this is an emotion that will be destructive to the One I REALLY love. It isn't worth losing her to indulge in these feelings. Don't play with fire. Avoid spending time alone with the Other. Don't pursue her and don't mentally compare your girlfriend to this woman. Talk to your girlfriend about your feelings so they aren't this secret you're keeping from her and therefore feel guilty about. Eventually, if you don't feed the fire it will go out.

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