My husband and I recently attended his class reunion. His former girlfriend was there and ever since then, I can't get "them" off of my mind. While he was talking to some other people, she came over to him and they chatted for a few minutes. I saw them and became upset and would not go over and meet her. Is this a normal reaction? How can I just forget about this?

First of all, I want to assure you that it is normal to feel a little jealous when someone sees a spouse or boyfriend talking to an old flame. In that situation it is natural to feel a little insecure or uneasy. It is also understandable that you did not want to go over and meet your husband's former flame, especially if you were caught up in the emotion of the moment.

Have you tried talking to your husband about your feelings? Does his behavior give you cause to feel unprotected? I.e. has your husband given you reason to feel jealous outside of the initial, natural response? Does he praise or compare you to other women? Spend large amounts of time talking to other women at parties? If so, you should talk to him about such behaviors.

If not, you can realize that these feelings are not reflective of the reality of your relationship. Feel free to tell your husband that you're feeling a little insecure and ask him for affirmation. You could say, "I need you to tell me again why you love me." Or, "Honey, why am I special to you?"

Your husband needs to be communicating to you that you are the most loved woman in all the world to him (and you need to let him know he's your #1 priority..) Try reading The Honeymoon's Over, Now What which contains some jealousy-proofing tips.

By ensuring that you both feel loved and protected, jealous feelings may pop up now and then, but they'll quickly be forgotten. Good luck to you both!

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