You sound very confused, Jennifer. You want to know how to let go but you also wonder if there is any hope for your relationship. Long distance relationships are extremely difficult. Most couples say that distance either makes or breaks their relationship. Does this distance confirm in your heart that he is absolutely the man for you? Or does it make you doubtful or less committed to him? What about your lover's commitment?

Based upon his actions, it sounds like the separation is making HIM distant and less willing to work at the relationship. You said that you do not want to be alone or have to start over again with someone new. Wouldn't it be much worse to be pouring your self and time into a relationship that is one-sided? Tommie Nelson, Pastor of Denton Bible Church in Dallas and a renowned speaker about relationships once said, "It is better to be alone than married and lonely."

I think you need to talk to your lover (without giving any ultimatums) about your feelings. If he is unable or unwilling to meet your needs it may be time to end the relationship. Both of you deserve nothing less than a vibrant, loving relationship where you are both equally committed. If you decide that ending this relationship is the best thing, remember that letting go takes time and a strong backbone. It is a grieving process. You may want to read the article "A Table for One, Please" about being single. You do have lots of hope… it just may not be with him.

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