by Heather Tomasello, Staff Writer

Gifts given from the heart are invaluable. This truth is the reason why a woman cherishes the simple handful of wildflowers that her sweetheart has unceremoniously plucked and presented. It is why a man tingles inside as he re-reads a letter written long ago in lovely and familiar script. These small tokens speak volumes to the recipients. They communicate,” I know you and I love you. We share a special bond. I care so much for you that I wanted to tell you in my own unique way. You are well worth my time and effort.” The gift itself need not be the “perfect” item; rather an expression of our emotions for the one whom is “perfect” for us. The challenge is to select gifts that communicate our feelings and special relationship.

This may seem easier said than done. You may be convinced of the value of gifts from the heart, but uncertain how to begin. Before you condemn yourself to a life of buying small appliances or belts, boxers and ties, consider your love language. “My what?” In his book “The Five Love Languages” (Northfield Press: 1995) Gary Chapman describes the different “languages” individuals may favor to express their love. He characterizes them as words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, and physical touch, in addition to actual material gifts. Which kind of gift are you most comfortable giving and receiving? Which kind does your beloved seem to prefer? It may help for you to think about gifts in those categories. Below are some examples to consider as you contemplate your own gift ideas.