by Jeremy Reis and Heather Tomasello, Staff Writers

5 Areas to Consider in Looking For a Mate

Do you feel as though you've dated bits and pieces of your ideal mate? Like the scientist out of Frankenstein, you've wanted to put together all of the good qualities of former boyfriends or girlfriends. "I'd give her Jill's sense of humor, Marissa's eyes, Ashley's honesty, and Kate's income."

Or are you unsure of what exactly you want? "I'll know Mr. Right when I see him." One hundred boyfriends later, you're still searching.

In casual dating relationships, people tend focus on finding someone who will make them laugh, who is fun to be with and/or highly physically attractive. While these characteristics are important, they are not an adequate foundation for building a life together. Compatible goals for life, financial perspectives, spiritual outlooks, and emotional maturity are essential in maintaining a committed, lifelong relationship.

No one is perfect and you can't expect to change someone, just as you would not want him or her to change you. How can you know if someone is right for you for the long haul? A good way to begin is by evaluating five general areas of compatibility: emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and financial. Objectively, honestly assess yourself in these areas, as well as what you expect or desire from a future spouse.

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