by Heather Tomasello, Staff Writer

(Adapted from Before You Say "I Do," by H. Norman Wright and Wes Roberts, Harvest House, 1997)

You know his views on politics or her favorite song. You are ready to move beyond the surface level of conversation, ready to ask questions that will provoke deeper understanding and intimacy in your relationship. Where do you begin?

The following is a list of thought-provoking questions, perfect for car trips, long walks, or after-dinner discussions. Try asking your significant other a few of these to discover more about who he/she truly is. You might be surprised!

1. What are your favorite childhood memories?
2. What was your first real memory?
3. Did your family have any special or unusual traditions?
4. What were your favorite subjects in school?
5. What was your favorite grade in school?
6. What did you want to be when you grew up?
7. Did you have any pets as a child?
8. Did your family ever go on any memorable vacations?
9. Did your family have any struggles as you were growing up?
10. Were your parents demonstrably affectionate with you or one another?
11. Did you like yourself as a child?
12. Did you have a pet name or nickname?
13. What things made you laugh?
14. What things scared you?
15. How did you get along with your brothers and sisters (if applicable)? Or, what was it like to be any only child?
16. How did you get in trouble?
17. How were you disciplined?
18. Who were your best friends? What is your relationship with them like today?
19. When was the first time you understood what it meant to die?
20. What parts of your childhood would you like to go back and relive?
21. What do you remember about your first day of junior high/middle school?
22. Who was your first crush? What qualities attracted you to him/her?
23. What did you do on dates?
24. Who educated you about sex?
25. Did you like yourself as a teenager?

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