by Joyce Henderson, Freelance Writer

In an era when the expense of a wedding can exceed $10,000 for a modest event, many families need to know there are alternatives which will allow the “dream wedding” without the nightmare price tag. When my daughters married, we researched every opportunity to save money and our groundwork, well worth the effort, can help other brides on a budget.

Begin with a plan. Whether you have a few weeks or an entire year, as we had, to prepare for your wedding, a plan is essential. We used a ring-bound notebook to keep track of names and phone numbers, prices, needs and wants, menus, ideas, lists and correspondence. My daughter taped pictures from magazines and stapled receipts into the notebook. With this record, we not only managed the event, but had a wonderful record of the evolution of her ideas and tastes as the special day came together.

Books and Magazines help. Bridal magazines are expensive, but you can get some for free at the bridal registry desks of department stores, in bridal and floral shops. The better guides will offer information on every aspect from the engagement through the honeymoon, along with pages where you can note your own preferences, needs, desires, dollars and plans. Don’t ignore the ads and expensive dresses. My daughter cut out pictures of several gowns for the bow from one, the sleeves of another, the lace on a third. She also looked for bouquets and brides’ maid dresses. Having an idea what she wanted before she went to the florists and dress shops saved time and money because she was less likely to be swayed by emotion and impulse.

Bridal consultants. Can you save money by using a consultant? Possibly. But, if you have the time to track down the best prices and alternatives yourself, you can save that fee. We found there is a great deal of latitude in prices between florists, bakeries, and printers. By visiting several dozen of each and making wise choices, we saved hundreds of dollars. Check with the church, if you are planning a church wedding. Many have a bridal consultant to assist you. While she most likely won’t shop for you, or plan the event, she may have information about florists and she may be invaluable in decorating the church. She may also be present during the rehearsal and wedding to conduct it. It is necessary to have someone, other than a member of the bridal party, to direct everyone.