use the old bartering system of trading one service for another. Perhaps you know a trusted elderly neighbor or relative who wouldn't mind caring for your children in exchange for a home-cooked dinner (just bake twice as much as you would normally) or a load of clean laundry. Be creative in your search for sitters and services to swap!

Good Scheduling
One couple simply employs principles of scheduling to have quiet hours together in the evening. They keep a consistent routine for their two and four-year old of meals, naps, and bedtimes. They have found that a little bit of discipline goes a long way.

"Most nights, we put our kids to bed by 8pm. They wake up early in the mornings, but we're early risers anyway. We enjoy a few hours of peace and quiet each night to catch up." Tim said.

Of course, this kind of date requires staying in, but there are many romantic activities couples can enjoy at home. Suggestions include making brownie sundaes, watching a movie and giving each other foot massages. Then there's Tim's favorite: "just talking."

Many couples with young children can become so entangled in the daily grind of life that they neglect spending time with one another relating as lovers. Taking time to go out on (or stay in for) dates will strengthen the health of your marriage and family.

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